Women who are egalitarian in the workplace and towards friends might still have very traditional expectations when it comes to sex and dating.
When it comes to actually having sex and relationships that include two people having sex with each other exclusively, sex differences and gender roles are more salient than in any other context.
Women who have traditional expectations from men they’re dating usually don’t communicate these expectations to men they’re not dating.
Is any of this controversial?
Hypothesis: any statement featuring the word “gender” is controversial, including this one.
Counterexample to hypothesis: “’Gender’ is a word in the English language.”
More seriously: What about the lesbians? :D
About the lesbians: I have no clue. I have never been one, or dated one. I’m a man. (full disclosure: Previous blog persona of a male robot was a joke. Am actually flesh and blood guy.)
That said: I have talked to lesbians and bi women about this IRL.
Why, it’s almost enough to make one want someone of a differing neurotype.