Honestly, being in a community where the consensus was ‘bisexuality is the obvious correct orientation, someday we’ll have the ability to change orientation and when we do I will be bi because then I will be able to date more cool people” was kind of good for me because it meant that there was that zany, offbeat, totally-disconected-from-queer-politics message competing with all the biphobia and lesbophobia and discourse. Like, I know it can be a hurtful message or reenforce other hurtful messages, but competing needs are a thing and ‘an environment that takes for granted that maybe someday we’ll get to pick and that when we do people might happily choose non-straight orientations’ was a need of mine.
Seriously though why would anyone want to have to deal with Gender Wars Discourse and lopsided gender ratios in hobbies and pregnancy and power imbalances.
Okay, but I don’t want to deal with compulsory bisexuality discourse and pressure that is sure to result. Right now, we have the excuse not to be bi that changing sexuality is difficult if not impossible.