@argumate on the one hand, it seems dubious to poke the bear’s nest by resurrecting the weak men post and its attenant cloud of discourse, but on the other, it’s still hilarious every year how butthurt people were about it. Potentially still are? Haven’t been paying enough attention to know if the discourse is fresh.
it’s a complicated and it takes time and careful words to unpack.
there are a few posts going around Tumblr of the form “if your friend has to drive you places because you have no car then I will be dating him, not you” followed by general acclamation; yeah girl, respect yourself, etc.
if widely held, this view guarantees one or both of these:
1. you’re damn right there will be a wage gap
2. many people will be dissatisfied with their relationship options
statements seen as being generally “pro-women” are read as non-sexist, even if they have implications which are exceedingly sexist.
for groups to be equal, individuals must be equal; if there is a preference for inequality at the individual level, it’s going to drive inequality at the group level.
one cannot complain about people reacting to an incentive structure that you yourself participate in creating.
