with “society hates a weak man” you could say “society hates an ugly woman”, and the discourse really is very similar.
an obvious objection would be that there are no ugly women, or that the real ugliness is moral/spiritual and not external, etc. but this is just carping: it’s easy to note that individuals and society have preferences as to appearance, and that these preferences can be exacting and weigh heavily on many women.
if someone claims that they would only date someone who meets a particular standard of appearance then they are both reflecting and contributing to an incentive gradient which is going to affect the behaviour of other people.
their preference may be attacked on various grounds: shallow, objectifying, unrealistic, or whatever, and can be defended on the grounds that attraction is not voluntary, or that “taking care of yourself” is a conscious choice.
the woman who prefers to date the man with the car and the man who prefers to date the woman with the looks are not on different sides, really.
(Signs of disease are generally ugly, too much asymmetry, too.
The social conditioning necessary to get around that would be pretty intense (and oppressive).)
