I have significantly fewer reservations about labeling myself / my politics as feminist than I do about labeling myself / my politics as rationalist.
I guess it all boils down to the question “Would you oppress women in a hypothetical world in which oppressing women was the right thing to do“
Your answer to this question is irrelevant, what matters is what you think the question means, and how you think other people want you to answer it.
We could oppress straight women less by legalizing polygam- wait, why are the men suddenly acting all desperate and trying to take permanent ownership of women at the earliest time possible? Why are women’s mental health and education outcomes declining?? Why is civil order decreasing???

