i still think it’s darkly hilarious that so many men heard women say ‘i want a man that’s sensitive’ and heard it as ‘i, a man, should be extremely sensitive about my feelings and desires, that is what women want, they want to be kept constantly walking on eggshells around my hairtrigger emotional state,’ instead of ‘ohhh women want partners who are sensitive to THEIR feelings and desires’.
like. this isn’t that hard. practice emotional reciprocity with women. listen to and sympathize with them. it will make your life way better than just demanding that people constantly cater to you and then not giving anyone anything back.
Blogger Shocked to Discover That When Told “Do Something Different,” Gender Whose Traditional Role Includes Relationship-Inwards Sensitivity to Women, Outwards Stone-Faced Stoicism, Actually Does Something Different
Like, “pay attention to my girlfriend’s emotions, be sensitive to my girlfriend’s emotions, but otherwise be a stone-faced, indestructible rock golem of strength” is the expectation.
And when straight women who are upset about things like in your post say they want a “sensitive guy,” it’s phrased in ways like “I want a guy who knows it’s okay to cry.”
Like, that pretty clearly means in touch with his own emotions.
Straight guys expect that if they are emotional in ways other than validating the emotions of their girlfriends, women will break up with them.
You tagged this “bangs pots and pans in a masculine manner” so I’m going to assume you’re male. You should really know better than this, if you’re not just doing rah rah performative wokeness.
Walking on eggshells is never fun, but I always get the sense from these conversations that it’s always “how dare women have to walk on eggshells? What, lots of straight men already had to walk on eggshells? Who cares about them??”
And in turn, I can’t see it anything other than yet another gender war munition that men should just ignore.
